The Hidden Power of Inwardly Sound Leadership: Transforming Teams Through Trust
Does this sound familiar? You’ve been told that if you just set clearer goals and delegate better, your team will trust you and your business will thrive—only to find yourself frustrated and wondering why the culture still feels off and engagement is low. It’s exhausting pouring energy into tactics that don’t seem to get your people truly invested. If you’re tired of surface-level fixes that never get to the heart of real leadership, you’re not alone—and there’s a better way to lead.
Just because you haven’t doesn’t mean you can’t—it just means you haven’t done that exact thing before.
My special guest is Tim Spiker

Tim Spiker brings a fresh and honest take to the world of leadership. As the author of “The Only Leaders Worth Following,” he dives deep into what sets truly effective leaders apart—mainly, their self-awareness and focus on others. Tim’s style is approachable and practical, drawing from years of hands-on experience coaching leaders across different industries. He has a real gift for breaking down big leadership ideas into simple, actionable steps that anyone can use. Tim’s work centers around creating strong, healthy company cultures where trust and engagement thrive, and he’s passionate about helping people see the real impact of being grounded and authentic. With a mix of research, storytelling, and straight talk, Tim Spiker is someone who helps leaders not just perform better, but actually become the kind of person others want to follow.
This is Tim Spiker’s story:
Tim Spiker’s passion for leadership grew out of necessity, not just curiosity. After years of finding himself in the same conversations, explaining the core ideas behind effective leadership, he realized he needed a better way to share what he’d learned from both uplifting and painfully difficult experiences. Tim’s story isn’t just about studying leadership—it’s about living through it, from following incredibly inspiring mentors to enduring a few truly challenging bosses who shaped his understanding of what teams really need. Each experience pushed him to look deeper into what makes leaders trustworthy and stable. The emotional ups and downs became his classroom, teaching him that real leadership starts with being grounded and self-aware. Writing his book was more about bringing others along on that journey than putting words on a page, making the lessons accessible so aspiring entrepreneurs and leaders could skip some of the pitfalls and get straight to building stronger, more trusting teams.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover the key leadership qualities that set successful entrepreneurs apart and drive their businesses forward.
- Understand how a strong company culture can transform franchise businesses and boost overall performance.
- Explore how developing self-awareness can completely change your approach to leadership and impact.
- Learn powerful strategies to become an inwardly sound leader who inspires confidence and clarity in any situation.
- Build lasting trust and engagement within your teams to create a motivated, high-performing work environment.
The Power of Being Others Focused in Leadership
Leadership that centers on others rather than oneself is a transformative approach that fosters stronger relationships and drives collective success. When leaders prioritize the needs, motivations, and perspectives of their teams, they build environments where people feel valued and understood. This outward focus encourages collaboration, supports diverse viewpoints, and cultivates a sense of belonging. It also shifts the leader’s mindset from controlling outcomes to empowering individuals, which leads to more innovative solutions and sustainable growth. For entrepreneurs, developing an others-focused leadership style is vital because it connects business goals to the human elements that truly drive performance and satisfaction. Tim Spiker highlights how being others focused isn’t just a strategy but a core leadership philosophy that shapes every interaction. In the episode with Meg Schmitz, Tim emphasizes that leaders who genuinely care about their team’s experiences create stronger engagement levels. He shares real-world examples of how adopting this mindset within franchise cultures leads to heightened loyalty and trust. Tim also contrasts this with self-focused leadership, which he observes limits long-term success. His perspective reinforces that inward reflection paired with outward consideration builds an authentic leadership presence that resonates deeply with employees and stakeholders alike.
Trust’s Impact on Engagement and Leadership Effectiveness
Trust serves as the foundation of any thriving team or organization. Without trust, engagement wanes, communication breaks down, and productivity suffers. Leaders who earn the trust of their teams create safe spaces that encourage openness, risk-taking, and accountability. This psychological safety boosts morale and commitment, igniting motivation that drives results. For entrepreneurs building new ventures, understanding and nurturing trust is key to cultivating a resilient workforce that can navigate challenges and adapt to change. During the conversation, Tim Spiker artfully explains how trust acts as the “currency” of leadership effectiveness. He illustrates how, in franchise settings, trust impacts not only the team’s morale but the company’s overall reputation with customers. Tim notes that trust is built through consistent, transparent actions over time. He shares how leaders who are vulnerable and honest forge stronger connections and inspire loyalty within their teams. His insights remind aspiring entrepreneurs that building trust requires patience and intentionality, but the payoff is a more engaged and high-performing organization.
Developing Inward Sound and Others Focused Mindsets Through Excursions and Journeys
Leadership growth often stems from intentional journeys—both literal and metaphorical—that deepen self-awareness and expand one’s perspective on others. Experiences such as retreats, cultural immersions, and challenging excursions encourage leaders to pause, reflect, and gain clarity on their values and purpose. These moments cultivate an inward soundness—a steadiness and integrity in decision-making—as well as a heightened ability to empathize and connect with others. For entrepreneurs, integrating purposeful journeys into their leadership development can unlock new levels of insight and effectiveness. Tim Spiker speaks passionately about how excursions and personal journeys have shaped his inward and others-focused mindsets. He shares how stepping outside everyday routines into unfamiliar environments sparked profound realizations about leadership and the human side of business. Tim describes these experiences as transformative, helping him develop a balanced approach that honors self-awareness and empathy equally. His perspective encourages entrepreneurs to seek out such journeys as valuable tools for evolving their leadership capabilities and fostering authentic connections within their teams.
The resources mentioned in this episode are:
- Visit beworthfollowing.com to learn more about Tim Spiker’s work, access resources, and explore available programs.
- Read the book The Only Leaders Worth Following by Tim Spiker for in-depth insights on leadership development.
- Participate in a Be Worth Following workshop, keynote, excursion (10-week program), or the full 28-month Who, Not What journey for guided leadership development.
- Connect with Spiker Davis for branding, book design, or visual identity services, as credited for the design and branding of Tim Spiker’s materials.
- Listen to the Free Agent Podcast with Meg Schmitz for real stories of self-employment and business ownership.
- Contact Meg Schmitz to schedule a free, no-obligation call for insights into entrepreneurship and franchise opportunities.
- Use the form on the Free Agent Podcast page if you’d like to be considered as a guest on the show.
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Free Agent Podcast with Meg Schmitz – Guest: Tim Spiker, Leadership Author & Speaker
Meg Schmitz:
Hello everyone and welcome to. Or welcome back to my podcast. It’s called the Free Agent and the discussion here is really all about free agency and taking control over your future.
The mission of my show is to share inspiring conversations with real people who took the leap into self employment, business ownership, franchising and freedom. From corporate refugees and executives tired of the desk job. To entrepreneurs and investors looking to share camaraderie and inspiration through their own business journey. My podcast aims a spotlight on real people who stepped into the unknown, took control over their destiny and became their own boss. Today I have a guest whose book I have not finished yet.
Tim. I haven’t finished it. The Only Leaders Worth Following. I gave this title away to so many of my colleagues at my conference last week. Thank you.
Tim Spiker:
As I say, 500 of my best friends are in franchising.
Meg:
And the reason it was such an easy title to give away is that every one of my franchise companies and all of the leadership at FranChoice, the number one topic was culture. Culture and leadership. We just had a big transition at franchoice. Our CEO started the company 25 years ago and he is stepping out of active duty and was on the search to find the appropriate replacement.
Meg:
He failed at that. Once Perfect. Previously in the early 2000s. And so I. I specifically recommended your book to our new CEO.
Tim:
Well, thank you.
Meg:
And he ordered it right away. He had it delivered to the conference and he told me before I. Before I left on Friday that he got the message. Wow. Wow.
Meg:
So with that, Tim speaker, author and amazing human.
This book, the Only Leaders Worth Following. Tell me about its, Its genesis and how it came to fruition. The. The meaning, the. Everything that’s in this book is just so relevant.
I could connect so easily to it. But it made me wonder about your backstory.
Tim:
Well, it is actually, you know, there, there are two different kinds of authors. It said those that like to write and those to like the, that like to have written. And I’m in the second category.
Writing is very much, it’s a labor of love, but because I love being done and having it to utilize, basically I found myself having the same two hour conversation over and over and over again about this research. And so in the end, I won’t say that it wrote itself, but basically I couldn’t not write it. I had to write it because we had to have a mechanism by which to share about this research and information in a more efficient way, essentially, which is, you know, author, you know, slash. Only an engineer would describe being an author. Like it’s efficient, but it is, it’s a helpful way to be able to get important message to people.
So I just really had to get it out there because ulTimately otherwise I was going to spend the rest of my life in the same two hour conversation. And while I’m excited to do that, I also want to help people move to the next step past that first two hour conversation. So that’s how this book came to be.
Meg:
Did, did you ever have, I know you did because it’s in the book. Have report to someone who was truly terrible.
Tim:
And then by comparison you had, you had people who inspired you to become a great employee because they were tremendous leaders. Absolutely both ends of the spectrum. I feel like today as many Times as my kind of terrible follow experiences inform my ability to relate and connect to others who have also had those experiences. Which is, which is most people. I probably.
There’s a couple of particularly bad leaders that I had the opportunity to follow. I should probably be sending them some royalties because they really, they, but they really, I mean it’s, it’s different when you have a, a very personal, at Times very emotional experience following somebody. It, it sticks with you. And that’s a, that’s a. Both ends of the spectrum could be really great, could be really terrible.
And so yeah, I have had both extremes and that’s been a huge blessing considering the work that I do today because I’m able to say, hey, when it was awful, did it, did it sound and, and smell a little bit like this? And people are like, yes. And I’m like, okay, I’m with you here. Now also let’s talk about what it could be and also let’s talk about what we have the opportunity to be as leaders for others. How do we get over here to this, to this wonderful experience?
Meg:
We can talk about that as well. So, yes, both ends of the spectrum. And so the strong messaging. And I know in here you and I agree about standing on a soapbox every now and then, you really. To get your message out.
Meg:
But the inwardly sound. Let’s talk about leaders and recognizing our own integrity and health. Healthiness. Yeah. To be inwardly sound, because then, then you can do the other thing when, when you’re inwardly sound.
Tim:
You have so many different words and terms in here to help define inwardly sound. But in overview. Yeah, yeah, let’s. Yeah, let’s do an analogy because I think it’s. It’s maybe one of the easier ones.
And let’s think about a boat, a boat that’s going to go out to sea. And before I get on a boat that goes out to sea, I want to know that that boat can handle the sea. We don’t know exactly what’s going to happen out there. Some. Some real bad weather could come in.
And. And so when we think about the vessel itself, is it sound? Does it have. Does it have structural integrity? Can it take a beating?
Is it worthy to carry me? Is it worthy to keep me safe? In a sense, when things around are troubling or challenging? Just take that same idea when we think about the soundness of a vessel and now apply that to a person. What are the people around us who are the people that seem to be stable no matter what’s going on?
Now, it’s not that they’re not emotive. They might be very emotive, they might be less emotive, but whether they’re super externally emotive or not, there’s a groundedness in them that you can essentially feel when you’re around them. They’re able to roll with reality as it shows up and address it. Now, someTimes that means I’m going to go with the flow. Other Times it means, no, I’m not going with the flow.
We’re not going that direction. I don’t care if the herd is going to the left, we’re going to go to the right. And I have the confidence and I have the conviction to do that when it is necessary so that, you know, and anybody else who might be following such a person as that can know, hey, this isn’t just going to be whoever the strongest wind blows. That’s where we’re going. This is a person that is grounded and stable and sound, and they create a sense of stability around them.
That’s an Inwardly sound leader.
Meg:
Because then they can be others focused. Yes. Yeah. And okay, so let’s talk about others focused and why that, why that matters as a leader.
Tim:
Well, the reality is the combination of these two things. Inwardly sound and others focused, these are the people that we trust the most. But for the leader himself or herself, there is a release that happens within us to be others focused when we’re more inwardly sound. When I’m not inwardly sound, I am the really bad version of that is I look like a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs where I’m just constantly scared and concerned about everything. I don’t have that stability.
The reality, as I develop who I am, I become more secure and settled, you know, insecurity. Some of the folks listening have probably had the opportunity to follow an insecure leader. One of my two folks that were so challenging fell into that category. And oftenTimes with our clients, we’ll host a conversation. Let’s talk about the blessings, quote unquote, of following an insecure leader.
And it’s, it’s, it’s a, it’s a painful session. What comes next? Because people have all kinds of stories and some of them are almost unbelievable to hear. But the shrapnel that insecure leaders create is palpable. And so the reality is, and I’ve seen this unfold, is when we’re insecure as leaders, our teams, even though it’s not spoken, everybody’s job all the Time is to make sure I feel better about myself.
Which means that we’re not able to focus on the more appropriate things for the business, the organization at hand, but within the, within the leader. When I can be settled and sound within myself, it frees me up to say, I don’t need to have the lights and the focus on me. It frees me up to say, look, I’ve settled the big questions. I have a sense of confidence, I have a sense of self, I have a sense of security. So now let’s take all that groundedness.
What do we put it in service to? We put it in service of others. When we take groundedness and we say, now I’m going to be about you and for you, I’m going to have a perspective where you as the person that I’m leading are somebody for me to walk alongside, to care about and care for, that we’re going to move forward. But that’s that groundedness that comes from being inwardly sound that actually helps to unleash that ability to be another’s focused leader. And Then back to where the research points ulTimately is.
It’s this combination, this combination of inwardly sound and others focused. Those are the people that we trust the most. And that is why we bring our best for those kinds of leaders and therefore produce better results. That’s where the research leads us.
Meg:
When you’re doing your leadership seminars, this dawned on me the other day as I was reading the book.
I so connected with every chapter and I thought, okay, that’s me. People are following me. I am that leader. Do you get people who come to your leadership training who you have to break down and get them to admit to themselves that they’re like I did the other day. I admit to myself, I’m not all that.
Tim:
I’m not. If you really think that you’re all that, then you’re, you’re not necessarily. You have the confidence, which is great, but then maybe you’ll also have the misperception that you’re more, more well, well oiled than you actually are. So how do you get people in your sessions to come to a realistic view of their own, their own weaknesses? Yeah, well, I mean, to the point, mixed in what you’re saying, there is, yeah, there’s a confidence, but it needs to be connected to reality.
Tim:
So we, we had the data to run it. My, my research colleague, Vanessa Kiley, she got behind the computer and put it into the SPSS software. And I went into her office one night. She said, I’ve got the results. And I was very interested to hear what the results of this analysis was.
And here’s what she said.
Nothing. There’s no statistical correlation between personality style and effective leadership or natural human capabilities. And what I mean by that. Let me, let me clarify that because that can sound like a vague term. One of the measurements on this assessment, it’s called the Highlands assessment, is they’ll give you a string of numbers and then they’ll take it away and say, how many can you remember?
Now, that seems like an odd thing in a test, but there’s all kinds of tests that indicate how do we learn and other things like that. Well, some people can look at a string of numbers and they’ll remember three, and that’s only if it’s the same as their area code. And other people can look at a string of numbers and they’ll get all of them. That’s what I mean by a natural human quality. And so we are measuring a variety of human qualities there through the Highlands.
There was no statistical connection. But in an act of desperation, Vanessa said, well, forget about any hypothesis that we have, just look for any, any numeric correlation that you can anywhere. And that’s when this story that we’re talking about today emerged. We had eight aspects of leadership that we were measuring. So I want everybody to think about a pizza, a round pizza.
When you cut a round pizza into its all slices equal, that’s eight slices of pizza around that circle and every slice is worth. I’m going to be nerdy math here. That’s 12 and a half percent every slice. Or an easier way to think about it, any two slices are a quarter of the pizza, right? So if these eight areas are all equally important, when we measure variability on the assessment, every set of two slices should be worth 25% of the movement in the assessment because that means, hey, everything’s equally important.
And when Vanessa put it into the software and said, look for statistical correlations, what came back to us is that you have two slices of pizza that when you add them together are 77% of the pizza. These are two very big pieces of pizza. These are the two that my previously mentioned 16 year old would go after right out of the box, right? These are the big ones. And so the question is, okay, well which two are there?
And as I look back on it now, you know, you always see things a little clearer in hindsight. It took, it took a while, but eventually the very obvious story stepped forward. When you look at the six things that were smaller, those were things like set direction, think strategically, motivate and inspire, ensure execution, those kinds of things. Actually, the typical things that we talk about with leadership, that made up the 23%. When you looked at the other two, the really big slices of pizza, those were the two that we’ve been talking about, inwardly sound and others focused.
And that’s when three years later, frankly, the light bulb went off for me is that those two things, inwardly sound and others focused, those are about who you are, the other six are about what you do. And so that’s the foundation of leadership. Which is to say I say 77% when I’m being nerdy. But if we round it, that’s what we mean when we say three quarters of your effectiveness as a leader comes from who you are not what you do. And I mentioned earlier, and we can go as much into it as you like, but it all comes back to the issue of trust and how trust creates engagement.
So ulTimately, that’s what this research points to, and that’s the work that we do, is we walk this path to help people become inwardly sound, more inwardly sound, and more others focus because that will improve their leadership.
Meg:
And since you’ve been doing this, I know from the book, you’ve had some great tesTimonials coming back from people who have participated in your sessions. Give just a couple of examples of some great turnarounds from average people who then created some amazing results.
Tim:
Yeah, I’ll start from the macro and we’ll go down to the micro. So there is an international organization who, fortunate for us, I couldn’t. There’s so many things in this business I could not have arranged. Meg, this is one of those stories. We started working with them at the exact same Time that they started working with McKinsey. For those who might be familiar with McKinsey, and McKinsey has something that’s fairly well known called the Organizational Health Index ohi. And they apply it to companies across the globe.
And they were measuring this organization and when they measured them, they were in the bottom quartile of Organizational Health Index, which is not a happy story in any way. You don’t want to be in the bottom quartile of anything, especially not this thing that has all kinds of implications to financial performance. This organization really dug in to working on who. They really dug into the effort of working on inwardly sound and others focused. They also did a number of other things.
So I’m not saying that that’s the only thing that. But we had a variety of the executives in that group come to me privately and say years later, five years later, to be exact, the work that we were doing on WHO has made a huge difference for who we are becoming as an organization. And so if I’m one of your listeners, I’m saying, okay, that’s a vague story, Tim. I need some evidence which would be a fair. I mean, I’m an engineer, so I like that question.
The reality is, in those five years now, they had invested at the very top level in who, not what if we’ll just call it that they invested at middle manager and they invested at the front line. So they had hit all levels of the organization. Five years later, they were retested by McKinsey on the organizational Health Index and now they were in the top quartile globally, which has again major financial implications with regard to their performance, including financial impact. It’s three Times what it would have been if you’re in the bottom quartile. So that’s the macro story.
When we choose to go deep and work on these things, they can have a really profound impact.
Another more, less macro, a little more micro. We had a group. One of the things that we work on when we’re looking to be more others focused is curiosity. And we really challenge people to be curious, not just intellectual curiosity.
You’ll find a million articles about how intellectual curiosity is connected to performance and leadership. And those are fine, but it’s not enough. We’ve got to also be curious about people, their perspectives, their motives, their ideas. And we were working with a group specifically on curiosity. And one of those managers shared a very, very simple story.
They had an unexpected problem with the production. They were in the construction space and because they were working on being curious, they, they just ask a few extra questions. I mean we can make this rocket science if we want to, but someTimes it just means, you know what, instead of applying the solution we would normally apply, I’m going to ask a few more follow up questions. Through that exercise of we’re working on being more curious, they ended up coming to a different conclusion. That with just a couple of questions saved them a couple hundred thousand dollars because they were willing to ask the question, to go one step further on the examples.
And now we’re going to take it out of the workplace and bring it into the home. This is one of the things about this work that I have been. I should have seen it coming, but I didn’t. When you’re working on who somebody is, it’s going to show up wherever they are, not just at work.
And so there’s, there’s so much, so many stories, I could almost can’t keep track of them. But the one that’s coming to mind currently is a gentleman who was working on himself as a leader, as a father in his own family. And he ran into a situation with his teenage daughter, Norman, normally the parent child examples a teenager shows up somewhere in the story.
So he too was, this is another example actually from curious. He, they were talking about music and she started to go down a road that, you know, there’s generations and we have different musical tastes and.
But he decided that he was going to lean in. He decided, okay, I’m working on being more curious. Why don’t I apply that in this case? And so he did. And then he shared the most amazing story that he discovered that his teenage daughter’s taste in music was actually much, much closer to his own than he would have ever imagined.
And he said, previously, I wouldn’t have even asked. Like I would have just kind of let it go. Well, through this intentional curiosity, he learned this about her and then went on to share with, with the group that we were in about how now the two of them, when they’re traveling or driving somewhere together, they’re now using that as a connection and a bonding thing where they’re sharing music with one another even though they’re from obviously completely different generations.
And he talks about how that had, he talked about how that improved their relationship and then of course improved relationship with parents and childs, that parents and children. That just sets us up to handle the bumps of life more effectively when our relationships are healthier.
And so that one’s obviously different than Ohi or $200,000, that’s a father and a daughter. But those are some examples from macro down to micro. When we become more well developed human beings by becoming more inwardly sound and others focused, there are myriad positive outcomes that make us more effective as leaders.
Meg:
And so as you’re talking about this, it strikes me that part of the conversation with your leaders is about say AI and resumes and silos and giving, giving those people who on paper look like the person you want for the job, but asking more questions about who they are to get more of a dynamic. Do you incorporate that level of depth in the conversation with your leaders about getting out of AI and resumes and more into plugging in the person to get more excellence on the job?
Tim:
Certainly AI is coming up more and more as it is for everybody and everything. And I have a, I have a friend, Bryson Vogel Tans, who wrote a white paper about kind of leadership in the age of AI. And his point in his white paper is that more than ever what’s going to be at a premium is genuine, authentic human leadership. Because so much is going that way of automation.
So if anybody who’s listening, if you decide that you’re going to do the hard work of becoming a well developed who, it’s not going to be a Time and energy that’s not spent well because you’re going to, you’re going to stand out more and more over Time because the world is becoming less and less human, less and less authentic.
And so in some regards we can make an argument for the advantage of digging into this at this particular Time, but you hit on something really important there Meg, which is, you know, in the interviewing process with people, are we having conversations just about what they’ve done or are we listening for who based answers?
I’ll give you a little example because people are regularly asking like, how do we interview for this? At first it’s hard to interview for. So I’m not, I want to sugarcoat it, but if I ask somebody, tell me about, you know, one of your greatest successes in leading a team.
And most people, I would say today, most people are smart enough not to say I did the I, I, I. They’re not going to eye themselves to death because they know that that doesn’t sound good, that they’re just talking about themselves.
But what I like to listen for is how much credit are they given to others? How much are they highlighting others? Like they’re in the interview. So in theory they are going to say they may be smart enough not to use the I language, but how do they incorporate the contributions of others when they tell those stories?
When they talk about their greatest accomplishments, do they talk at all? Do they note the people that contributed to that? The mentors? Do they note the other people that came in?
And so what I’m doing now is. It’s the same question, really. It’s a behavior based interviewing question. Tell me about a Time when so many people are familiar with that. But now I’m listening with a slightly different ear. I’m listening for, is this a person who has some humility?
Yes. Yes, I want you to be confident. And yes, tell me about the part that you did. But are you really telling me that you led a team, that’s the word that I just used, team T E A M, a team did something. But for the last eight minutes, all you have talked about were the things that you did and you didn’t have any credit to share with anybody else.
Okay. You avoided using the word I 75 Times. Good job. But that’s just the veneer. The more we talk with people, the more we get to listen for the heart of who they are.
Yeah. One of my favorite questions when I’m starting to work with somebody is I know that you’ve got your resume, I know that you’ve got your LinkedIn profile and you have lived a life and think of yourself like a pollinator or a bumblebee.
You flitted around and you landed over here and the pollen was really good. And then you took off and you went over here and it wasn’t so good over there. And you don’t want to do that all over again.
So tell me about something in your life that was transformational or formative. Tell me a story. Tell me stories about how you got to where you are today that I would never know because you can’t put it in a LinkedIn profile, you can’t put it in a resume.
I’ve had so many people say, oh, I totally forgot about that story. That was really informative and, and I can hear the rise in their voice when they get excited about it.
So yes, that curiosity about people, people are endlessly fascinating if you just ask the right questions.
Meg:
That’s, that’s endlessly fascinating. That’s a great way to put that. And so getting as a leader, my husband and I are challenged by this all, all the Time.
He’s former Goldman Sachs partner, used to be a trader. You can take the man off the trading floor, but you can’t take the trading out of the man. So he’s got intellects and professors over there.
Then we run another company that does prairie wetland woodland restoration work. Some of these people are biologists, they’re scientists.
Some of them are not. They’re just people out there doing prescribed burns. The leadership qualities for those two entities might seem like they’re different, but the leadership qualities what we’re trying to groom for, we’ve got some people who are graduating and retiring and the leadership aspects that Pete and I are looking for are the who well.
And there’s a universality to that. And I couldn’t agree with you more.
Tim:
And the data backs it up as well. So here’s another little data point for you as we kind of connect the dots together. If we start with a well developed who inwardly sound and others focused, then these are the people that we trust more.
When somebody’s for me and not first for themselves, I’m going to listen to their instruction and their direction, their mentoring, their coaching. I’m going to listen to them differently.
And when I know they’re coming from a grounded place within themselves. This isn’t the insecure, scared, unsettled leader who is frantic like, okay, I can trust what they’re saying more.
So that’s, that’s step one. But what happens with trust next, that’s really fascinating where I want to bring another data point in.
So one of my favorite activities to do with our clients is to read them a couple of emails.
And the first email we read them is from somebody that they really, really do not trust. And the email essentially says, I’ve got a new opportunity for you, it’s going to be really challenging, but I think it’s going to be a real fit with who you are. It’s going to help your team. I think it’s going to further your career.
And then we ask people, after reading that email, tell me how you’re feeling.
It’s a visualization exercise, so you got to really dig in. Scale of 1 to 10, 10 being I’m coming out of my skin excited. One being I’m going to delete the email without even responding.
We asked them to give themselves a rating.
And then I tell them, okay, I’m going to read a different email to you now.
But before I read the second email, we do the same visualization exercise. I want you to imagine that the next email is coming from somebody you really, really do trust. Opposite end of the spectrum.
And then I read the exact same email.
And the reason I can say honestly that it’s a different email is because it is a different email when it comes from a different person.
And so we ask them to scale themselves again, exact same scale. Not a syllable is different in the email.
Okay, where are you now? After hearing the same email the second Time, imagine it coming from somebody you really trust.
We have measured that shift from round one leader I don’t trust and round two leader I do trust is 261%.
Oh my gosh. My engagement goes up by 261% when I’m hearing the exact same message from somebody I don’t trust now moving to somebody who I do trust.
And so the last step towards performance, which is where a lot of leaders, maybe most leaders, maybe all leaders, is where we’re trying to get ultimately.
We’re creating and we’re producing. That last step is what is the connection between engagement and performance?
And so people might be wondering, or is there a, is there a study out there that has looked at engagement and performance?
And the answer is no, there is not a study.
There are over 400 studies that Gallup has brought together in a meta study.
And every organizational and business statistic that you can point at goes up dramatically when people are more engaged.
There’s no rocket science there.
I mean, duh, like somebody’s more engaged in their work, they’re going to produce a better result.
But that line that we’ve just played out here, more well developed who makes me more trustworthy.
When I’m more trustworthy, people are more engaged.
That’s the email exercise.
When people are more engaged globally, across every industry, every ethnicity, every level in an organization, people are more engaged, they produce a better result.
That is why the who, not what principle exists.
So before we talked about, hey, 77% of leadership is a function of who you are.
But if somebody says, well why, why is that?
This that I’ve just described is the why behind it.
Meg:
So that gave me goosebumps. I didn’t see that one coming.
Tim:
The difference, it’s my most fun exercise to do. I love doing the email exercise. We call it, you have been chosen. And it’s really, it’s really fun because people feel it.
I mean that’s, that’s what’s fun about the exercise is we’re gathering data, but they themselves feel the difference.
And the words were literally identical.
Meg:
I can just imagine with one of our companies, aforementioned companies doing that exercise. And the reaction that I had visceral was the second one made me put my shoulders back and puff up a little bit and yep, wow, that’s right.
That’s confidence in me that even maybe I didn’t see myself.
Well, even when we’re just pretending and we know we’re pretending, but we still feel the difference.
Tim:
And so we bring more to the party, we bring more to the engagement and we should, it makes sense to.
By the way, I should say just side note, people might be hearing this and saying so I’m just going to act like I’m others focused and that’ll get what I want.
I’m just going to say over Time, good luck.
I mean if you can act that well for that long, you should be in acting, not in leadership.
People tend to smell out inauthenticity in leadership around these kinds of things.
It’s way more efficient in the long run. Let’s just do the work and become others focused.
Otherwise you’ve got to spend the next 30 years of your life pretending.
And that’s actually really hard work.
So I always encourage people, let’s do the hard work within ourselves.
It’s going to be better in the long run to do that than it is to try to put on a coat and pretend like we’re inwardly sound and others focused.
Meg:
So I want to come and do a seminar with you.
Talk a little bit here as we’re going to wrap up here shortly. Talk a bit about your. How can people access your work?
Tim:
Thank you. Thank you for that.
So easiest place to find us online, we’ll start there, is beworthfollowing.com and you’ll find about what we do.
But really we, we have this spectrum because we’ve learned over Time different organizations and different leaders are ready for different things at different Times.
So on one end of the spectrum is the book. We have a podcast as well called Be Worth Following.
And so that’s at the far side of the least amount of Time and least amount of money and least amount of energy.
But hopefully those are still producing results for people.
We do keynotes so that people can have some of these kinds of experiences like we’re talking about.
We do workshops.
That’s, I mean, I don’t want to pooh pooh the keynote thing.
I love the workshops because I love getting to interact with people.
It is so fun to hear their in the moment things.
Now those things that I just mentioned are a little bit more about understanding the work that we actually love to do the most is to walk with people as they become as they literally are moving and taking steps in who they are.
And the two primary ways that we do that.
We have something called an excursion.
So you’ll hear all this traveling language here.
The excursion, it’s usually about 10 weeks where if somebody has a little more energy than, hey, a workshop would be great.
But what if instead of an afternoon, we had two and a half months together?
And what we do is we actually work on helping people become.
We pick one aspect of Inwardly Sound, Others Focused, and we say, hey, we’re all going to be more curious or more empathic by the end of this 10 weeks.
And we do a series of things during that Time that help move that needle in becoming.
And we call that an excursion.
And then the larger version of that from end to end, all pieces of Inwardly Sound and others focused is 28 months.
And we do that with organizations and we cover the whole gamut.
We go from end to end on Inwardly Sound and Others Focus, where it’s essentially like the excursion, except we just do all the modules back to back to back to back.
And again, that’s 28 months.
So there’s a wide range there from, you know, the free podcast and the inexpensive book to the 28 month journey is what we call that.
That’s the who, not what journey.
And lots of things in between.
So those are the different things that we do with our clients.
Meg:
Those are some great options. Yeah. From do it yourself to doing the really hard work.
I just signed up for a six month thing. Journey. A journey, not an excursion.
Yeah. And this self work even for people who think that you got it.
I’m 62.
And we keep taking bigger steps, bigger bets, bigger challenges.
My husband and I.
And I, I can’t stop and rest on what I think I’m good at.
These challenges are going to push us in new ways.
So I signed up for a journey, a six month journey.
And just such a great thing for everyone to do.
Tim:
Well, good to invest, to take the Time and energy and money to invest in your own development.
I mean that’s because it’s good for your marriage, it’s good for your every.
It’s good for everybody.
Meg:
Yeah. You and I were laughing. You’re right. And I applaud you on that.
Tim:
And look, I’m making those same investments.
The reality is we as an organization and I as an advisor, we can walk people through things.
But the people who are leading us through anything in life, whether it’s a counselor or it could be the dentist or the doctor.
You know, the dentist has to take care of their own teeth as well.
The doctor, you know, we’ve seen some unhealthy doctors.
Like we, we all have to do the work.
We can know the things and it’s important to know the things because we have people in our lives that help us walk down these paths.
But the reality is everybody that works in the kind of work that we do, I’ve got a, I gotta take my own medicine every day.
And sometimes I don’t do that very well and sometimes I do.
But I’m still very blessed to get to be.
I mean, I love this work.
It is, it is a calling for me.
I, you know, I did not, I did not come to this because I saw some type of financial opportunity.
Although it’s been good for my family, I just couldn’t.
I’m a very reluctant entrepreneur.
I never had a lemonade stand as a kid.
I didn’t dream of having a bunch of people work for me.
I just had a message and the only way.
I tried other ways, but I could never freely completely talk about who, not what.
When I was inside other organizations, there was always some kind of governor that got in the way or.
That’s a nice message, but we really don’t want you to talk about that.
And I was like I’ve got to get out there so I can share this message.
And I feel so blessed to get to be in this work with people.
And that’s a whole nother topic that I didn’t even get to is you are a free agent.
One of the reasons why you’re here is that you left safety and security, or perception of such.
Meg:
Well said.
Tim:
In order to do something that is highly risky.
Unknown terrain.
You hadn’t done it before.
And I try to get this message across to the people I’m working with who want to own a franchise, but they’ve never owned a business before.
Get that word imposter.
If it’s anywhere in your being, get it the heck out.
Because we were all born not knowing.
We were all born knowing nothing.
Meg:
Yeah.
Tim:
And we learned and we adapted.
And one thing that I say that always makes people laugh is when you brought that first baby home, it did not know that you’d never done this before.
Meg:
I mean, I’m immediately having a flashback on that one.
Yes.
Tim:
And so get the word out of your brain, because all it does is, is stop the energy and create resistance and a negativity.
You did it.
You took the leap and you landed.
And of course, it took Time for you to get to where you are now.
But all of this work that you’ve put together, leading up to 28 months.
28 fricking months.
I’m pregnant for nine months.
28 months.
I mean, it’s essentially a master’s degree, more or less, is the way I look at it.
And just because if somebody hasn’t.
Just because you haven’t doesn’t mean you can’t.
It just means you haven’t done that exact thing before.
And the way to do it, whatever it might be, whatever developmental experience somebody’s thinking about, or if it’s taking the leap into starting a franchise, the only way is to go ahead and do that.
Of course, people have to figure out if the Timing is right and are they ready for.
Because there are going to be bumps.
We know that.
But the idea that I haven’t done it before, therefore I can’t do it.
I mean, talk about a lie.
That’s just a.
I mean, we will have not done anything in the human race, if that is the story.
I mean, literally nothing.
So, yeah, I think it’s important to have that growth perspective.
You talk about growth mindset, all the stuff from Carol Dweck.
Great thinking about the idea that we can all grow and develop.
And I think it’s important for all of us.
Please.
It’s good for humanity.
Meg:
It’s kind of crazy what’s going on out there in the world at large.
One other, one other transformational thing that’s been in the news in the last 24 hours is Indiana University winning the basketball championship.
Now, easy, easy.
Now.
Mega.
You said basketball.
Oh, I’m sorry.
Football.
This is.
This is very important, Meg.
Tim:
This is very important because I am a Purdue basketball guy and so I could never in a million years bring myself to cheer for that team in Bloomington.
However, what Kurt Signetti did with Indiana football is.
I mean, talk about.
We’re talking about things that have never been done before.
He had the belief, he challenged everybody around him.
By the way, leaders.
He was okay with not being liked by some people that he was calling to account.
When he first got to Bloomington, he had some very interesting conversations with the athletic director regarding their level of commitment and where it needed to be.
And he had enough back to being inwardly sound.
You got to know who you are well enough to be okay with the fact that sometimes not everybody’s going to like you.
And he.
Kurt Signetti certainly.
And then what they have done in the last two years.
And what I mean to say that it’s movie worthy actually is not doing it justice.
Because no movie house would have ever taken this story because, like, what has to be a little bit believable.
And there’s nothing about Indiana winning the national championship in football that would have been believable two years ago.
Even heading into this season after their great season last year.
Skeptics all over the place.
And it is, as much as I hate to admit it, I’m dyed in the wool boilermaker.
I’m a Purdue guy through and through.
I have to admit, the story is unbelievable.
I mean, truly amazing.
And incredibly inspiring for people who think it can’t be done.
Meg:
Yeah, it can be done.
This is just such great inspiration, Tim.
And so I am going to look into the excursion and.
Tim:
Wonderful.
Meg:
Yeah.
So I will see you again.
I will let you know when this is going to launch.
We are.
We just launched season eight last week, so it’s.
We’re live now.
So I’ll let you know when this is gonna upload.
Tim:
Great.
Meg:
And it does upload audio.
I’m sorry, audio only.
We’ll take a clip from our interview today.
Sure.
And use that as a teaser.
And this has been better than better than I had hoped for.
And while still being less formulated in my head, I’m usually more crisp with my questions.
But this is such a great topic.
It’s such.
It’s so chunky.
We could go on for a very long Time.
Tim:
Well, that’s.
And I have at times been accused of going on for a very long Time.
So.
No, I.
Well, hey, thank you for the invitation.
And I.
I mean, I’m passionate about this.
It is, it is my calling to.
To walk with people through this and to help them understand it.
So you’ve given me a forum for, you know, 50 minutes here or so to share with others, and so thank you for that.
It is my pleasure.
And, and my edification.
Meg:
It’s.
You’re.
You’re nourishing my soul and I appreciate.
Tim:
Yeah, well, I had a lot of Time on an airplane there and back and I.
I really wish.
And I don’t know if it’s available to download for audio version.
Meg:
I am negligent.
We are behind.
And it needs to happen yesterday, which is to say it’s not there now, but it’s got it.
We are.
I am negligent.
Tim:
So we got to get it done.
So it’s not there now.
Meg:
That would be great because I have two hours from here to O’Hare to get on a flight, to go wherever.
I don’t think I’m going to be able to get it done.
For your flight to O’Hare this Time.
I would have.
It would have been great if I’d been able to download it, read it on the plane.
But then to do the audio version.
Do you do Kindle?
I do Libby.
Tim:
Okay.
I don’t know Libby as well.
People have told me that they’ve put it onto Kindle and had Kindle read it to them.
Meg:
Sure.
Yes, of course.
So I don’t know if Libby allows that or not.
That’s for my book club.
Okay.
So, of course, that’s where I’m.
I have easy access to the most popular books that way.
But for something like this, the value of the print is how many charts you’ve got in here.
Tim:
Yeah.
The.
The words that are in highlight or bold.
Meg:
Yeah.
Yeah.
This.
You did a great job publishing a really.
Tim:
Thank you very much.
Meg:
A really engaging, easy to read and.
And to embrace and take it all in.
But I do think doing not the do it yourself version, but the.
The guided exercise with you, I think that’s going to be even better for where I need to go next.
Tim:
Chapter eight.
You will see that email exercise in there.
Meg:
I must just be at chapter seven.
Okay.
Tim:
Yeah, you will see that.
And the email is in there.
And you can do that with anybody that you want to.
And Spiker Davis worked for us for a couple of years.
And Spiker, the reason that that book looks the way that it does and is laid out the way that it is is Spiker Davis.
Because I don’t.
I have the ability to say, well, that looks good, but I don’t have the ability to make it happen, happen.
And Spiker was amazing.
And without Spiker.
Spiker’s the reason that book got out of PDF and into print.
He’s the reason that it looks the way that it did.
And I literally.
He sat at the computer and I was on his shoulder and we went.
The interior design of a book is way more complicated than I would have ever imagined.
And we just kept at it.
So all.
All the.
Our.
Spiker did everything regarding our brand as well.
So anything that’s visual regarding our company is all Spiker Davis.
I’m very thankful for him.
Meg:
Well, it’s outstanding work.
And it was Chris Gramowski who introduced us.
Tim:
Yeah.
Meg:
And so I’ll circle back around to him and let him know that we did it.
Tim:
Wonderful.
We got the podcast done.
That’s great.
Did you.
You guys are starting season eight, and it’s.
It doesn’t matter to me when, but do you have a rough approximation of when it will come out?
Meg:
About eight weeks.
Okay.
Great.
It might be less.
It could be more or less.
You could tell me August.
I’d be like, okay, I’ll just.
I was just curious.
Tim:
No.
I think we’ve got six in the hopper right now, so.
Meg:
What a good feeling that is.
Tim:
Yeah.
To have them like.
Meg:
Yes.
Yes.
And thank God for the gal who produces these episodes.
She’s.
She’s.
What you’re describing.
For me, I’m a.
I can execute.
Tim:
Yeah.
Meg:
But I’m not a great visualizer.
And she is.
She’s the one who every week says, you got to try this.
We’re going to do that.
We’re going to.
And so I’m.
I’m fortunate to have a good team around me that lets me do what I’m good at while they do what I’m less skilled at.
Tim:
Yep.
Absolutely.
Yep.
All right.
Thank you so much.
And absolutely.
Absolutely.
I’ll let you know when it’s coming up.
Meg:
All right.
Thanks, Tim.
Appreciate it.
Take care.
Bye.
Tim:
Bye.
Bye.
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